Stop Obesity For Life

Donna asks…
Obesity-LIFE THREATENING at this point.Help,Please?
I had a normal weight of 130 until 3 years ago.A psychiatrist put me on Seroquel 800mg/day.I went from a size 3 to a size 20-22,in 6 months.The doctor refuse to take me off the med.At the weight of 250 I am embarrased and even more depressed.I have tried exercise,biking about 200 miles/month.I have tried every diet possible including Lipozene.which did nothing more then waste my money.
Today I got my sleep study results which stated I have sleep apnea and need a machine to help me breathe at night.I was hurt when the doctor said I am excessivly overweight and need to lose the weight.I am at a lose.I have been tallying my calories for some time now and the most calorie intake is1200 calories.Regardless of what some idiots will say in response to this question,I do not over eat and never have.I I am a sensitive person and relize I am obese and do not need derogortory answers to a POTENTIALLY LIFE THREATENING problem.I have the potential to stop breathing.Please helpme.
Even though I am a nurse,please remeber nurses have serious health questions also.I am a good nurse,just not good at being the patient.
I am now considering gastric bypass.I am scared about that b/c I had an adverse reaction to anesthsia 9 years ago and went into cardiac failure after a hysterectomy.But rght now I do not know which is worse,the s/e of the anesthsia or obesity.

Editor answers:
It’s the medication that is causing your obesity. Ask your doctor to take you of the med, and try something different. Eating and exercising should really help, but it does take time. Get of the med, and keep dieting/exercising daily, & you’ll be normal in no time =)
I hope you get better!

Carol asks…
How do I stop the Obesity cycle?
I am 27 years old, 5’3”, and weigh about190. My entire family is morbidly obese, and I am well on my way to joining them. I don’t really eat horrible foods, but am not much for exercise. My weight is seriously depressing me, and takes so much away from the enjoyment of life. I have no energy, no sex life. Please help

Editor answers:
The following healthy living recommendations will help you if you’re trying to lose weight, tone up your muscles, have aspirations of building lean muscle mass, are attempting to get a wash board stomach, or just want to feel better:
*1) Burn more calories then you’re consuming everyday and measure your results using the following formula: Calories Consumed minus Basal Metabolic Rate (BMR) minus Physical Activity minus the Thermic Effect of Food (TEF). A website that explains this formula in more detail and will help you determine how many calories you need to reach or maintain a certain weight is at http://www.primusweb.com/fitnesspartner/library/weight/calsburned.htm
Get a diet and fitness calculator that you can put on your computer or cell phone. This will allow you to easily calculate the above formula, set goals, log your daily calorie consumption, and register your physical activities.
Set realistic goals for your ideal body weight. Here are two websites that will calculate a suggested body weight:
Adults: http://www.halls.md/ideal-weight/body.htm
Teens/Children: http://www.kidshealth.org/kid/exercise/weight/bmi.html
It is difficult and unhealthy to lose more than one or two pounds per week. There are 3,500 calories in a pound. If you eat 500 fewer calories per day for a week you will lose one pound. If you burn through exercise 500 more calories per day for a week you will lose one pound.
*2) Eat natural and organic foods found on earth versus something created by a corporation to make money. Eat meals in small portions throughout the day and take a good multi-vitamin supplement.
Avoid “High Glycemic Load Carbs” (sugar, pastries, desserts, refined starches such as breads, pasta, refined grains like white rice; high starch vegetables such as potatoes) and drink lots of water. Read this article for more information on high GL Carbs:
http://www.hsph.harvard.edu/nutritionsource/carbohydrates.html
Do not try fad diets or diet pills. Here is an excellent food pyramid that anyone can follow: http://www.rayandterry.com/html/images/PyramidLRG.gif?osCsid=26a424be471d1337e7c2f105d5c64d9d
*3) Exercise on most days by doing cardiovascular training and/or resistance training activities.
Read a book or find a certified trainer to make sure your doing all resistance training exercises correctly. A great book to buy that teaches you the resistance training basics is “Weight Training for Dummies”. A superb magazine to buy with resistance training routines that will not get you bored is “Muscle and Fitness”. Signup for the free newsletter. An excellent free online resource is at http://www.exrx.net/
A good book to buy that teaches you the cardiovascular training basics is “Fitness for Dummies”.
*4) Get plenty of sleep. Sleep experts say most adults need between seven and nine hours of sleep each night for optimum performance, health, and safety.
*5) Educate yourself continually on health issues and make a life long commitment to good health. A great free publication is “Dietary Guidelines for Americans 2005”. A superb book to read is “You The Owner’s Manual”. An excellent periodic publication is the “Nutrition Action Health Letter”. A reputable test you can take to measure your biological age is at http://realage.com
Look at all areas where you can enhance your health. For example, make improvements in the quality of the air you breathe. Review outdoor air quality forecasts where you live and get an indoor air purifier. Send me an email or yahoo instant message to “gainbetterhealth” if you want an indoor air purifier recommendation and if you have any questions.
*Click on all the source links below to get the full benefit of the recommendations. The answers presented to your health questions are not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health providers with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.

Lizzie asks…
My hubby saved my life, how can I help him save his from obesity and sleep apnea?
Sometimes I kid around and say I’m all kinds of broken, but that was how I felt when he became my friend. I was in a verbally abusive relationship, although he never hit me, it probably would have hurt less if he had. Overweight, bi-polar disorder, PCoS, and more problems on top of that. I was ready for suicide, just to get life over with since I was that unhappy.
My new friend helped me understand that although I had some problems, they weren’t worth giving up on everything, including letting my family down. He became my best friend for the next three years, then he moved from Canada to the US to be with me. We ended getting married 3 weeks later.
When I meet him he was an online friend. I didn’t know everything about him as far as physical attributes, but I really didn’t care. Before he flew down he told me he was a heavy set guy, and I was ok with that. He reminds me of a huge teddy bear now.
My problem is this. When he moved here he was overweight, I don’t know how many pounds he was, but he was wearing a 2x shirt… Since then we’ve been married for 1 year and 8 months (today actually, how funny.) and he has gained another 2 shirt sizes. My husband now weighs in at about 360 at 5’8″. I had sleep problems so I did a sleep study, I thought “well heck, he has sleep problems too, we’ll both go”. They diagnosed him with Sleep Apnea, he stops breathing about 200 times an hour. I was terrified for his life, if he stops breathing that many times an hour, what is my promise that he will start breathing again? Well now to say the least he has a breathing machine that helps him at night. He hates it, but he wears it for me.
We went and saw our General Practitioner. He said that with Sleep Apnea, if it’s untreated the heart enlarges, and if it goes untreated he could have died within a matter of 3-5 years, if it he was lucky.
My husband’s problems with weight started when he started gaming online. Mom is a superb cook and made something like 6 course meals on a daily basis, as a stay at home mom. I think this is around when he hit 22ish. (He’s 30 now) We still game online… for a couple of months after seeing the doctor we walked 2 miles every day, when it started raining heavily in the area for a few weeks we stopped. Then I tried getting gym memberships for us, we went for 3 weeks… then he would refuse to go.
I’ve done everything. I’ve cried, I’ve voiced my opinion, commented about how his shirts occasionally show his tummy poking out, tried putting him on an expensive diet, showed him that I’m willing to support and work out too, and taken him to the gym or just randomly walking. For the life of me I can not get him to take more interest in his weight. I’m heartbroken that he isn’t taking this matter more seriously. My parents and brother are concerned, what’s the likeliness that he will survive the next ten years at this rate, what will happen to me when he’s gone. He’s literally the light of my life; he’s what keeps me stable.
How do you push someone to understand what they are doing to themselves? I’m overweight by about 30-50lbs, but since we’ve gotten married I’ve a few pounds, and kept it off.
It’s hard doing things together, shopping for clothes, being intimate. He wonders why I pull back, and I’ve tried telling him why, but he doesn’t understand, or doesn’t want to. My last thought is to send him back home to his family, leave him and maybe he’ll understand how much I need him to be healthy. But then I don’t even know if he’ll take action.
I know my husband is lazy, I am too to an extent, but he takes extremely good care of me. He has a hard time finding a job because he’s an immigrant to the US, so now he’s attending college to get additional training in his career. He’s not doing nothing all day. He’s studying, going to school, doing labs, and yes some gaming too. There’s no harm in that I think… It’s how we spend time together and keep within a budget.
Note: I don’t have insurance; I lost my full time job that had benefits. Since then I had to take the first job I could get, which is only part time. Before when we had the insurance he didn’t find the idea of weight loss pills acceptable, he thought they could cause permanent damage. Now that we don’t have insurance he’s thinking that MAYBE he’ll eventually take them. I don’t know if he’s saying it because he knows I can’t afford to get them for him, or if he was serious. My sister in law’s extended family has a doctor in it, he’s from Mexico. He offered to bring medication to my husband to help stimulate his metabolism. My husband said NO without a second thought. He said medications from Mexico weren’t safe. My brother argues that the same medical companies make drugs all across the world, but he just said no, and left it at that.
Sorry. I know this is long, but thank you for taking the time to read it, and possibly help me.
As a response to my first comment. My hubby sometimes says that I approach him at the wrong times, IE: He’s had a bad day. Other times he says he knows he needs to try, but just doesn’t. He’s even mentioned that if he cooks diet foods that I don’t always like them, and that’s disappointing for him. I’ve offered to cook my own meals, so that way he won’t feel as though he’s being unappreciated, but then he comments that he feels useless since his daily tasks are less than mine.

Editor answers:
It hurts to see someone who’s helped you gradually kill themselves with constant suicide, especially whenever they don’t see the issue, or at least have no real desire to rectify it. There’s only so much you can do or say to him. I don’t know if counseling is an option, I know it’s expensive, with or without insurance. You’ve tried talking to him, sneaking in exercise… Etc. You’re a good woman for trying. I don’t know if I missed it or not, but what’s his reaction when you tell him flat-out how you feel about his condition? Is he concerned in response, indifferent, thinks you’re overreacting, etc.? You’d think he’d at least humor you and give it a shot.
Addendum: Sorry, took me a while to get back to this question. His responses are… I don’t know. My mind goes to extreme measures as being a solution, but I’ve never been in your position verbatim, so I don’t feel completely adequate in giving you advice. Whatever you so choose, I wish you and he luck in the end-result.
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